Blinded by Love

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A Crime of Passion: Randy’s Story

Randy was a law abiding truck driver; Linda was a yoga instructor with big dreams. When they met in their early 20s it was love at first sight. Randy wanted Linda more than anything and promised to her the world if she would marry him. She said yes and they tied the knot, rented a small apartment and soon had two young sons.

Randy adored his boys and was still crazy-in-love with his young wife. But Linda was restless and unpleased with the slow progress of their lives. She desperately wanted her own yoga studio and relentlessly pressured Randy to earn more money to make her dream come true. Despite working 60-hour weeks, Randy knew he would take at least a decade to save enough to give his wife what she wanted. He was desperate for a solution, so he came to see me.

The first words out of his mouth were: “I love my wife and I am going to buy her a private yoga studio. It’s her dream, and she will be able to help hundreds of people find peace and harmony.”

I told Randy I thought that was a great idea and a very noble ambition.

“Thank you, Ghanshyam,” he said. “The problem is . . . I can’t afford it. That’s why I’ve decided to rob a bank. I will do one bad deed and then do good for the rest of my life. What do you think of that idea?”

“Are you joking? I think that is a terrible idea,” I told him. “If you need money, go to the bank for a loan, not to rob it! It’s against the law; someone could get hurt . . . you could get hurt. You don’t want to be a criminal, you’ll lose your freedom and your family.  It might take longer to earn the money you need honestly, but it is the best and only way to do it.”

“Okay—skip the philosophy Ghanshyam . . . just read my palms and tell me if you think I’d get away with it.”

I told Randy palmistry wasn’t about predicting the future, but is an invaluable tool in helping us avoid making big mistakes, which I really wanted to help him do.

Randy’s handprints provided a lot of insight into two very different aspects of his personality. The dominant hand, the hand used to write and that reveals our current resolve and circumstances, reflected a stable and rational mind. His quadrangle—the area between the head and heart line—was beautifully balanced. A head and heart line that are healthy and of equal length suggest a coherence between our feelings and our thoughts—our passions don’t rule our logic, and visa versa.

However, Randy’s non-dominant hand, the hand reflecting our subconscious desires, fears and latent characteristics, told a different story entirely with its broken headline and inordinately long, unbending heartline originating from his Jupiter mount. His heartline told me that his idealistic expectations of love and sex were both unreasonable and all-demanding, and could easily push him to illogical extremes. It also made him prone to extreme jealousy, possessiveness and fits of temper. His broken headline made matters worse by short-circuiting his logical thinking and predisposing him to irrational and unreasonable behavior, which could be triggered by any major setback or frustration.

I conveyed this to Randy, advising him he needed to change the negative aspects in his non-dominant hand and bring them in balance with the mature, well-rounded features of his dominant hand. The best way to do this, I suggested, was by associating with supportive, positive people, developing a daily spiritual practice and treating the people in his life with love and kindness.

“But I don’t want to lose my wife,” he said. I told him he wouldn’t lose her if he treated her with love instead of doing something foolish in an attempt to possess her.

Randy didn’t return for his follow-up appointment. A year later Linda came for a consultation and told me that Randy was serving five years in jail for attempted bank robbery. Not only that, but he was convinced she was cheating on him and had threatened to have her beaten up.

Writing to Randy in jail, I told him that although he may feel that he’d lost everything, he actually hadn’t. He still had a wife and two loving children waiting for him, but that he would lose them if he didn’t develop balance in his life and in his hands. Despite his environment, I again encouraged him to surround himself with the most positive people he could find and to reflect upon those he cared for with love and kindness.

“You maybe imprisoned, Randy, but you are free to choose the kind of person you want to become,” I wrote.

When Randy came to see me after his release he was a changed man, he was working hard to build a yoga studio for Linda and was practicing yoga himself every morning. He was a loving dad, a good husband . . . and he was happy. The vastly improved lines in his non-dominant hand reflected his new outlook and approach to life.

“Your letter struck a chord in me Ghanshyam. I began thinking about how important my kids were to me and that made all the difference. I joined a prison anger management group and a daily meditation class—and I began focusing on myself and my family with love. Suddenly everything changed. It’s funny that I had to be locked up to become free.”

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